Car Update

Dec. 15th, 2010 09:53 am
nohanii: (Default)
On Sunday evening, I went to Kohls with my parents to get some Christmas shopping done. On the way there, the subject of the cars came up. Dad wondered aloud why I don't just drive the new Civic all the time. I responded, "Well, is it yours or mine?" It's pretty obviously not mine, considering their zomg look what we bought! attitude upon returning home with it, as opposed to a surprise! presentation.

That opened up the way for me to talk about my feelings regarding the whole car situation. I've been trying to find an opportunity when we were alone together and Mom and Dad are awake, alert, and relatively stress-free. That night seemed rather favorable.

So, I calmly and quietly stated, "Three days before you came home with the car, we had a conversation. I'd requested to use the settlement money to buy a (rather new) used car for myself, like a Kia. Then you came home with a new car. I know you likely didn't mean it this way, but I feel like this is a punishment for getting my car wrecked. I feel like you are treating me like the accident was my fault."

Dad, of course, objected to the notion that he was punishing me or that it was my fault at all. I guess they just haven't given this situation much thought.

I pointed out that, unless I'm just driving to work or around town, I have to ask for permission to take a car. I also pointed out that I will not have a car when I move out (which will hopefully be soon, but no real plans yet). Yes, Mom's name was on my poor old Civic's title, but mine was on the registration.

During that five minute conversation, we came to an agreement: I get to drive the new Civic (or Acura) as long as I live here. Dad promised that I will be able to use the settlement money to buy myself a replacement car when I move out. That seems rather fair to me, though I would prefer to get my own car ASAP, mostly for the freedom having my own car entails.

I had thought that they were planning to use the settlement to pay off their new car. I have since learned that they are planning to sell the older of the two Acuras (the one I currently drive when the Civic's not available), which will bring them back down to four cars for two people, instead of five. I am much happier with the situation as is stands now with the nearly $8000 settlement promised to me.
nohanii: (Default)
Holy crap I don't think I've ever been this close to flipping out over this.

I went off birth control toward the end of February due to my financial situation and lack of health insurance, but we've still been practicing safe sex. Dan brought up last Saturday night as we were cuddling in bed that it had been quite awhile since I'd had it, but I don't clearly remember the last time I had my period. I know it was just ending on a Friday/Saturday that we went to Dan's parents' house. That would be either Easter weekend or two weekends before that for Tatiana's birthday. We couldn't pinpoint it better than either of the two weekends. So, four to six weeks ago. I'm used to it coming every four weeks like clockwork, either Sunday night or Monday morning, for the last five years. It was either coming up right on time, or it was two weeks late. It was that "two weeks late" part that we were concerned about. I'd meant to keep track of my periods after coming off birth control, but it kept slipping my mind, so now we have this great big question mark hanging over our heads to deal with.

Sunday came and went with no sign of it. Monday too. Days passed with no clue that it would be coming anytime, and we grew more concerned with each passing hour. Finally, on Wednesday Dan brought up the possibility of buying a home pregnancy test. I didn't want to because I was terrified of seeing a + or two lines or a big bold PREGNANT glaring up at me. Scenarios were running through my head of what I would do if I was. That's as far as I got, I couldn't bring myself to say or even think that terrible "P" word. What would I do if I took the test and it came back positive? I can't have a baby, not right now. I barely have $200 in the bank. I'm only 22. I'm trying to get a better job, and go back to school. I'm not ready to give up my life for a tiny, insistent human life. I can't even afford a dog. I could get an abortion, but I'd feel terrible even if I caught it this early. I could keep it and give it up for adoption, but I have no insurance and wouldn't be able to afford the routine check ups, not to mention anything that might pop up if something went wrong. That and I'd feel horrible having a kid out there that I didn't know. I'd feel awful thinking about how he might feel unwanted because I gave him up. All of this ran through my head in a jumbled mess in about twelve seconds.

Dan insisted that he would feel better knowing, no matter which way it turned out. At least we'd know. I knew I would stay up worrying if it came back positive, but I'd probably be able to sleep not knowing. I agreed to get the test for his peace of mind. I made him take us to the store in his car, since he had our reserved spot. I felt horribly awkward standing in the aisle staring at the pregnancy tests, trying to decide which one to get. We grabbed a First Response two-pack, since it's supposed to be able to tell within only four days of your missed period. We also got some corn on the cob. Yumm.

Of course, I'd already peed just before deciding to go to the store, so I had to drink a bunch of water while we tried to distract ourselves watching Glee. It worked, but only until the next commercial break. Damn. I finally peed on the damn stick (that was awkward) and left it in the bathroom to develop for a few minutes. Dan and I distracted ourselves more. Five minutes later, we checked the test. One line. Negative. Not pregnant. Thank god.

Of course, my period started trickling in on Thursday and came full-force on Friday. All that worrying and hand wringing and avoidance that could have just been ignored and resolved with a few more days of "wait-and-see."
nohanii: (Default)
Did you realize I've been unemployed for nearly 4 1/2 months?? Yeah, I didn't either until I counted. Damn.

That said, I JUST GOT A JOB!!!!!! )
nohanii: (Default)
I SAW NEIL PATRICK HARRIS LAST NIGHT.

Dan took me to a live magic show called It's Magic. NPH sort of semi co-hosted the show, and he was marvelous. We were seated in Mezzanine 1, and Dan made certain we brought my binoculars because our seats weren't terribly close. I had no idea what was going on. An old guy, one of the producers, came out to introduce the show, and he introduced Neil Patrick Harris. I sat bolt upright and grabbed the binoculars from Dan as soon as NPH came out on stage. It looked like I could have reached out and touched him. He came out only one more time, at the start of the second half. Again, those binoculars were glued to my eyeballs. He didn't do any magic, but aaaaahhh It was so exciting.

I so sad he's gay, haha.


New news!

Sep. 18th, 2009 10:24 am
nohanii: (Default)
Guess what I got in the mail yesterday? TWO checks from unemployment! One was for $99 and the other was for $198, so I got $297 total for a three week period! It's actually not much (Dan's mom gets something like $230 every week... grr), but it's way more than the goose egg I was getting without this. I thought I'd only be getting $74 a week if I was ever considered "eligible," but I'm getting $99 per week instead: $74 a week from unemployment plus another $25 per week from Obama's Federal Stimulus Plan thing. AND I got a letter from Berkeley Court with receipts for the work they had to do on my old apartment. Out of the $600 security deposit and the $300 pet deposit, we're getting back $705. That means I get $300 (my cat, my money) plus 1/3 of $405, or $435 total PLUS money that Xiomara and Persilla Queen of the Desert owe me for utilities (and money that Persilla owes me for shorting me on bills last month). That check should hopefully be coming in the mail in a week, maybe less.

I CAN PAY OCTOBER'S RENT. And pay bills. And buy actual groceries. And maybe get replacement RAM for my computer. Yay! \o/

In celebration, I am making frozen yogurt. I'm going to get some fresh fruit or maybe some frozen berries (or both!) and have me some DELICIOUS fruity/berry-y froyo tonight!

Shhh!
I might get a job in a week or two, I'll let you know if it pans out.


Profile

nohanii: (Default)
Catherine

August 2011

S M T W T F S
  1234 56
7 89 10111213
141516171819 20
2122 2324252627
28293031   

Syndicate

RSS Atom

Most Popular Tags

Style Credit

Expand Cut Tags

No cut tags
Page generated Sep. 26th, 2017 06:12 pm
Powered by Dreamwidth Studios