I can see this getting messy

[nohanii]

While in a very tipsy bordering on drunken state last night, I messaged my ex on Facebook. He replied this morning. He, too, seems to miss me and wants to catch up before I move out of the area. He just IM'ed me saying he's in Orange County today for an audition at 8:30 tonight. Unfortunately, I have work 2 to 7 today and he has an appointment soon, so it didn't work out. He seemed sad about that. We're trying to figure out something for next week, but he doesn't know his schedule yet. Apparently he's shooting something in Long Beach on Sunday and he's trying to work something out for that evening after I get off work.

How do I tell my boyfriend that I want to go off and see my ex-boyfriend sometime soon, alone?

I kind of feel like I'm cheating on Dan. I have no intention or interest in anything beyond catching up with someone who used to be a good friend and a fun person to be around, but still.

Comments

[gandolforf.livejournal.com]

In that case, the first thing I would suggest is to tell Dan about it, as soon as possible. Sneaking around (whether that's your aim or not, it may come off that way) will only enforce a "cheating" idea (again, whether it's true or not). I don't see anything wrong at all with you meeting up with your ex to catch up, and it's not cheating unless you're either physically or emotionally inappropriately vested in him. But again, I'm an outside party. Dan may not see it that way, especially if you make these plans and see this guy without him (Dan) even knowing about it.

[honeystix.livejournal.com]

I was planning on it. This came together after Dan left for work this morning, and I didn't want to text him with "BTW..."

I have a whole 'nother post about me and Dan coming up soon, if you're interested. Stay tuned!

[roie.livejournal.com]

Explain it just like that to Dan! He should understand, you just want to catch up with an old friend, not an ex boyfriend.

[honeystix.livejournal.com]

...he might not see it that way. This is the only guy I was pretty serious with before Dan, and they have an indirect history so they really don't care for each other.

But Dan trusts me, so maybe?

[subluxate]

Which ex is this?

[honeystix.livejournal.com]

Gabe.