Apr. 15th, 2010 05:25 pm
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-Go the speed limit, preferably the speed of traffic. In the same vein, don't drive 25 mph in a 40 zone just because your turn is in a block or two.
-Don't merge in front of someone going 10 mph slower, it's effing annoying, and it's dangerous.
-Please, be careful when you turn right on a red light. I've nearly gotten hit many times both as a pedestrian and a driver with the right-of-way.
If I see you coming up behind me, I'll do my best to get out of your way, but if you tailgate me, I WILL go slower just to piss you off.
-For god's sake, always look for pedestrians when you approach an intersection or a driveway. I'm sick and tired of nearly getting killed.

-Don't arrive at a store just a little before closing and spend an hour or two browsing. As someone who has worked 8-hour days in retail, I can tell you, the employees just want to go home. They're tired and their feet are sore from standing all day, and they absolutely hate you for keeping them on their feet at work for another hour past the end of their shift.
-Don't arrive at a place of business after they close and demand that they open just for you. Employees are leaving, and the registers are already down. It would take more work than it's worth to start everything back up again just to try to please an ungrateful customer.
-DoggieTown customers specifically: I have had no training in the front office and I cannot release your dog to you after closing, no matter how many times you ask. Please don't make up stories about how the girl in the office didn't correct you when you said you'd pick up your dog at 6pm when we close at 5. If you're a regular customer, you know the hours. If you're going to be late, call and we'll do our best to accommodate you.
-If an employee goes out of their way to help you or does an especially good job, feel free to offer a tip. It really makes their day. Just a few dollars is often like another half hour of work. Bare minimum, say thank you. It makes them feel appreciated even if it's only courtesy.

-Get the stick out of your collective ass.
-Do your damn jobs.
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This actually happened on Sunday (April 26th), but I haven't had time to write it up until now.

Sometimes talking to my mother makes me want to scream. I just realized that our first family reunion in nearly 10 years is next weekend, so I called home saying I was interested in going, and that I had invited Dan too. Everything was hunky-dory until I mentioned that Dan wanted to see his friend Seth so they could work on another video. And I refused to let them buy me a plane ticket. Then my dear mother started ranting about how Dan controls my life and we're attached at the hip and I can't/won't do anything without him.

Apparently my mother feels like she can’t talk to me when he’s around. It’s not the same. I always bring him home; I never come home alone anymore. Uhhh, hello? I came home, alone, for two weeks over winter break. Thanksgiving, too. And that week in August. All alone, no Dan with me (okay, we visited with Dan up in San Francisco when I was home in August just to show in around the city a bit, but that was only a few hours out of an entire week). I bring him home for spring break, and that’s about it. She says she doesn’t understand why I “need a boyfriend.” She keeps reminding me about things that happened over a year ago when I was having doubts about our relationship. Apparently, she wants me to break up with him. Guess what? I did! We weren’t together for about three months. Guess what happened? We got back together! All of that was my decision. I initiated the break up, but I couldn’t stand not being with him. I am the one who decided we should get back together. Dan never wanted to break up, but he let me because he wants what is best for me. That is love, I don’t care what you say. He was willing to let me go because he thought it might make me happier. How is that controlling me? How is that bad for me?

She doesn’t understand that I love him. She refuses to acknowledge that this is the man that I will be marrying sometime soon. She doesn’t realize how well Dan treats me – he is exactly what I want from my partner. Dan is incredibly sweet and loving, he helps me out whenever I ask him, he’ll take over doing the dishes after I’ve made dinner, he calms me down whenever I get upset. We get along very well. He makes me laugh everyday. Seeing him after being separated for hours brightens my day. He’s gentle; he never ever hits me no matter how upset he might get. He never yells, either. Sometimes he snaps, but everyone does once in a while. He has never said or done anything malicious towards me. I love him, and he loves me. But she doesn’t see it, or she doesn’t want to.

Yes, we have had fights. We’ve had our ups and downs, just like all couples. But guess what? We’ve worked through them. We don’t let them fester. We talk it out, cry, and make up. Things get better. He doesn’t control me; I try to accommodate him because I want to. He accommodates me when I ask. How is this in any way a bad relationship??

All I'm trying to do is give Dan and my family a chance to get to know each other. I want this to all be happy fun times, but my mother has apparently built up so much resentment towards Dan that it never happens. It's like she's afraid that he's taking me away from her. This situation is very upsetting. I need my mother to like Dan. I can't stand the thought of marrying Dan, only to have my mother hate him. That's not how this is supposed to be. I'm trying to bring someone, whom I love deeply, into our family, but she's rejecting him. Maybe I'm blowing this all out of proportion, but this is how she's making me feel, and I hate it. 

Some of you on my flist know him, or have at least met him. What are your thoughts? Why does my mother keep acting like this?

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eeee So we were assigned homework for my Nutrition class. We had to keep track of our food intake for two consecutive days and work out the percent of Calories from protein, fat and carbohydrates, plus our percent of daily recommended fiber intake. I'm... concerned. I worked out on Tuesday and ran some, but I only ate about 900 Calories in that entire day. When I ride my bike up hills on campus, I end up feeling a bit sick almost every time, though not especially tired. I'm concerned that my fatigue is related to not eating enough. I'm not the most active person in the world, but I do work out 2-4 times a week, volunteer at the zoo and tutor for four hours on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays (which takes a surprising amount of energy). My two-day average caloric intake is about 1215 Calories, but most days I probably don't make it much past 1000. Am I worrying for no reason or is this a legitimate worry? Should I start eating more?

In two days I had:
145.2 grams of protein --> 580.8 Cal from protein
41.75 grams of fat --> 375.75 Cal from fat
368.7grams of carbohydrates --> 1474.8 Cal from carbohydrates
for a total of 2431.35 Cal
and 26.6 grams fiber 

Percent of Calories from protein 23.89%
Percent of Calories from fat 15.45%
Percent of Calories from Carbohydrates 60.66%
Percent of daily recommended fiber 53.20%

Also, I need to get my yearly pelvic exam soon. Meaning, within the next two weeks. Problem is, I hate hate HATE it. I would rather get stabbed with another enormous needle and almost pass out from the pain and pain-induced-nausea than get this exam again. BUT, I have to get this exam done in order to get my birth control. So, I need any advice you guys might have for making this less of a hellish experience; all I've found online just says to relax. Uh yeah I TRIED THAT THE LAST FOUR TIMES. STILL SUCKED ASS. I'm definitely asking for the damn speculum to actually be warm this time instead of freeze-the-sun cold. That, and I'm asking for the smallest one they have. Is there anything else I can do, maybe "warm up" before the appointment? Anything? Also, in your experience, do male or female doctors generally do a better job? Nurse practitioners?

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Is it just me, or is it rude to invite someone (say, your roommate) to do something in front of someone else and completely ignore that other person? This is probably the third time it's happened in the last few weeks. I know I'm not the most talkative person, but I tend to not talk if I don't have anything to say. I've tried to be more open and friendly with my roommates, but it's the same thing every year no matter what their personalities are like.

I want to have a good relationship with my roommates and be able to talk to them and do things with them, but it never seems to work out.  I really want to be friends with my roommates, but it seems like Pauline and Nicole (and Jackie) are friends and they just tolerate me. I really tired of things always ending up like this.

I think maybe I'm too picky about a lot of things. I've tried to cut back/stop doing things that might be annoying to them, but it hasn't seemed to help any. I've tried to take being woken up almost every morning in stride and not be annoyed or pissy about it. I try to take care of my things and keep them out of the way, but there's no reciprocity. My dining room table? is apparently Pauline's desk. Maybe I really am a hard person to live with? Or maybe I'm letting them walk all over me and they're taking it for granted? I have no idea. Does anyone have any insight?
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I have a bad habit. I let every little thing get to me, and it's really stressing me out. Seriously, everything is annoying. I get annoyed when my roommate takes a shower right after I go to bed at 2 am, or when a car pulls out right in front of me because they didn't want to wait, or when people take up the entire sidewalk and refuse to move even when they see someone else coming. I'm annoyed that my roommates use my really expensive knives then don't wash them and dry them right away to prevent rusting. I whine, complain and yell.  In short, I'm feeling like frustration and annoyance are taking over my life, and I'm tired of it.

I really need to start focusing on the good aspects of life a lot more. I think if I could do this, I would feel a lot less stressed and be a happier, more peaceful person overall instead being worked up all the time.  I really feel like this is affecting me, at least through stress levels. That, and I feel like I'm not a very pleasant person to be around because I let so many things affect me that really shouldn't. 
Does anybody have any suggestiong as to how I can break this bad habit?


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