nohanii | (no subject)

Is it just me, or is it rude to invite someone (say, your roommate) to do something in front of someone else and completely ignore that other person? This is probably the third time it's happened in the last few weeks. I know I'm not the most talkative person, but I tend to not talk if I don't have anything to say. I've tried to be more open and friendly with my roommates, but it's the same thing every year no matter what their personalities are like.

I want to have a good relationship with my roommates and be able to talk to them and do things with them, but it never seems to work out. I really want to be friends with my roommates, but it seems like Pauline and Nicole (and Jackie) are friends and they just tolerate me. I really tired of things always ending up like this.

I think maybe I'm too picky about a lot of things. I've tried to cut back/stop doing things that might be annoying to them, but it hasn't seemed to help any. I've tried to take being woken up almost every morning in stride and not be annoyed or pissy about it. I try to take care of my things and keep them out of the way, but there's no reciprocity. My dining room table? is apparently Pauline's desk. Maybe I really am a hard person to live with? Or maybe I'm letting them walk all over me and they're taking it for granted? I have no idea. Does anyone have any insight?

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ugh roommates are hard to live with regardless of their personalities. i used to be best friends with one of my current roommates, but now we barely say a few words to each other. i feel kind of bad b/c she's kind of become the "outcast" of the apartment, but that's mostly b/c she's just generally bitchy to all of us.

maybe you could try suggesting a girls night to them. have a roomie dinner together and watch a movie or something. honestly, the reason that they don't invite you to things could be that they don't think you want to do stuff with them.
if reaching out to them doesn't work, then, well, fuck 'em :]

i think that's rather rude what your roommates are doing. it happens to me sometimes within my own group of friends but not often, and it bugs me every time. if you don't want to invite a certain person, just wait until that other person is out of earshot. it's not that hard. at least then, maybe some hard feelings could be avoided.

i don't think you're a hard person to live with. THEY'RE the people who are hard to live with. i get the feeling that you're being a little too passive with them, though. what they're doing is ridiculous.

aha sorry for the novel.

Roommates were the worst part of my college experience. I'm sure it's not you.

Maybe request new roommates?

Eh it would be really hard to request new roommates because we're in an apartment and they're on the lease too. Seriously though, I've had problems with roommates all four years so far, even with ones that started out great. Not fun =/ I'm just want to turn things around before it becomes a hopeless situation.